7 Responses to “Stubborn”

1. fuzzypeach
   November 1st, 2008 @ 5:14 pm

   Wow, I could’ve almost written this post. No answers (other than deep breathing and good chocolate…) but here’s what we’re going though:

   A) Pearl’s recent cold had her wiping her nose with her hand, then wiping hands on furniture/walls/toys/aauuughhhhhhhh.

   B) Socks are the problem here.

   C) She’s eating like a bird, a picky, picky bird.

   I’m going a little nuts.

2. Sharon
   November 1st, 2008 @ 5:44 pm

   I have no good news. My daughter is nearly six and a) refuses to blow her nose, b) fights wearing a coat/hoodie/fleece and c) has a limited food range despite our best efforts. At nearly seven and a half, my son’s behavior is easier . . . most of the time. I think the most we can do is love them the way they are at the moment. If they’re cold, warm them; if they’re hungry, feed them. And hey, congestion eventually clears. Hang in there.

3. tanya
   November 1st, 2008 @ 9:10 pm

   dear lord, i thought it was just me.

   porter is finally learning to blow his nose because i have had to tell him about germs in boogies and how he will get his baby sister sick if he wipes them all over everything else.

   our biggest argument is over his hair – the boy WILL NOT let anyone cut his hair no matter what i bribe him with. how do you go near a wiggly 3.5 year old with scissors???

4. Deb
   November 2nd, 2008 @ 11:41 am

   Neither of mine, ages 7 and 4 1/2 blow their noses, so I can’t help you there. My best advice at clothes and food is – don’t fight it. If he is cold or uncomfortable, he will put on a sweatshirt. Unless he is risking frostbite, just let him figure out what works for him. If he is too cold on one outing, he will hopefully want to dress warmer the next time. So far, mine are never cold. I don’t get it, but I stopped stressing about it.

   And for food, I just put it out there. Either they eat it or they don’t. I don’t talk about it anymore. I try to make sure there is at least one thing on the table they like, but when tastes are changing daily and not feeling like something equals I don’t like it, then I just let it go – I can’t be a mindreader, and I will not engage in the power plays. If they want to eat, they will find something on the table to eat, if not, missing one or several meals will not kill them.

   I know it is frustrating. Sometimes you just have to let go of what you think it should be like and just go with what it is. Save the battles for the safety issues – and the days when frostbite is a concern!

5. Johanna
   November 2nd, 2008 @ 3:59 pm

   Okay, I have no help to offer at all … but how about offering to layer several t-shirts over each other and combining this with (knitted or felted) “sleeves”, like extra-long wristwarmers? Heavens, this sounds crazy because a) I don’t even know if I chose the right English words and b) this would surely look hilarious. But maybe – it would work. Would a jacket work instead of a sweater?

   I remember my youngest brother to refuse to wear anything but his favourite sweater. It HAD to be washed sometimes, though. I remember my bf telling me he was a VERY picky eater as a kid. He does eat greens now. I hope this is good news.

6. Emily
   November 3rd, 2008 @ 2:32 pm

   Deb has good advice. That’s what I try to do. Here’s dinner, eat it or not, it’s up to you, but if you don’t, no dessert or snacks before bed. Sometimes my pickiest eater won’t eat a bite. & it about kills me as a mom to send her to bed knowing she didn’t eat any dinner, but over time, she is becoming a lot less picky & the dinnertable is not a battleground anymore. They know what to expect & don’t whine & complain about it anymore. (Be prepared for it to take a while, just be consistent.) Or maybe your Bean will get over his picky stage a lot faster than mine did!

   Good luck with the nose-blowing. I use a half-Nelson.

7. Sandy
   November 3rd, 2008 @ 7:18 pm

   Our pediatrician said just as the kid goes through growth spurts, they eat along those curves. Just wait it out until he gets hungry and asks you for food. And then give him 2 choices that he can pick from. My deal with Samar is he can eat 1 of 2 choices, eat 5 bites no matter what it is, and then gets to drink a cup of milk and go to bed. This has worked since he was 2.

   As far as clothes go, Samar did the same fussing routine and we just figured out that he wanted a zip up jacket instead of sweaters so he could control it. And for some time there, he felt good that he could leave it unzipped half the way. Now he loves to bundle up into a jacket. He ASKS for a jacket.

   Blowing his nose…. can’t help you there. Samar has always been cooperative just so he can see the “icky” that came from his nose.

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