August 5::Thursday
Posted on | August 5, 2010 | 7 Comments
This boy makes me smile all day long. I snapped these right after his nap… when he was all sleepy and mellow still. Love his little bum in the air.
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Today was all about long walks and conversations with my best friend… Conversations interrupted by little boys asking for snacks and finding caterpillars and banging on drums. Conversations about purpose, about passion, about direction, about contentment.
About the difference between these three terms:
Self absorbed.
Selfish.
Self confident.
What do you think of when you read these words. What does each mean to you? How do your definitions change when you apply them to your best friend, your lover, your mother, your child?
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August 5th, 2010 @ 11:30 pm
Oh, my. What a precious child. I love that sleepy squishy state. And the bum! I love bare bums on babies! So sweet.
As for your questions. Hmmm. Not easy to answer. Self absorbed is used so many times as a synonym for selfish, but really, I have been completely self absorbed lately as I prepare for my new job. Completely. Is that selfish? And selfish, well that has such a negative connotation. It is usually used as an insult. Self confident, on the other hand, is a good trait. I can see some link from self confident to self absorbed, but not really any connection to selfish. Am I just talking in circles? It kind of feels like I am! I don’t really know if I answered anything, or if I just restated it, but that’s all I’ve got.
August 5th, 2010 @ 11:47 pm
so totally adorable.
August 6th, 2010 @ 12:06 am
I just love when they sleep like that–all hunkered in that baby pose!
Megsie explained the difference well–as I was thinking…but not as smart. Selfish includes wanting for oneself more than wanting for someone else. Filling one’s own desires regardless of the impact on others. Selfish doesn’t even realize that there is a community responsibility because the buck stops with them & there isn’t anything for anyone else. Self-absorbed has less of a negative connotation than selfish. Selfish is a conscious decision, but self-absorbed is more like a character trait. And self-confident?! I don’t see any connection between that & the other two words?! Do you?!?!
August 6th, 2010 @ 3:49 am
Selfish can be a good thing, too. Sometimes it’s really a necessary state. I think it gets a bad rap. (But probably too deservedly in the majority of instances)
Adorable baby!
August 6th, 2010 @ 10:45 am
There are just no words for the adorableness of your Sprout. Please send him to Mississippi so I can take a bite off his ear! (Just kidding. Well, kinda.) LOVE HIM. (Just as much as I always adored his big brother, of course.) I love his sweet curly nap head, too.
Hmmm. I agree, there is a time to be selfish. Being completely unselfish is practically impossible anyway, but there is a beauty in the emptying of self so that you can serve others. It’s just plain no fun to be around those who are selfish or self-absorbed – and honestly, it’s exhausting. As a recovering people pleaser, they wear me slam out. There is a difference between being absorbed in yourself – all you can see is your needs and your thoughts and your lens is blocked – and knowing yourself, which is what being self-confident is all about.
Often, selfish people are not confident, in my opinion. Their selfishness is a wall they build to make sure they get everything they think they deserve. To keep the icky things away. To keep all their toys to themselves.
Very interesting topic!
August 6th, 2010 @ 10:18 pm
self absorbed: can’t think of anybody but yourself. can’t think outside of yourself for once second.
selfish: same thing!
self confident: confident in who you are. don’t have to justify yourself to anyone! stand up for what you believe in!
tara
your baby boy is priceless! those after nap pix are sooooooooo CUTE!~
August 8th, 2010 @ 2:31 pm
Oh, why must selfish get such a bad rap?
Being self-absorbed is one thing – only concerning yourself with yourself at the expense of everyone else is the worst, in my books. Especially if you want to have healthy relationships with anybody. But being selfish? I believe we need to occasionally take time for ourselves to do things just for us – a bath, a cuppa tea, a bit of blogging – to recharge our spirits so that we have more to offer to those around us.
And self confidence? I think that would illustrate the difference between the two. People who live their lives without regard to those around them are likely fearful that those people won’t like them or will be rejected by them, so they shut them out. The confident person is open to new ideas and experiences (and will take time to explore them selfishly) in the pursuit of becoming a better person.
Cute baby bum, btw!
K